Recently I found out that a high school friend passed away from cancer. His diagnosis took over six months as the first doctor he saw said it was nothing. His mum persuaded him to get a second opinion. He eventually went but argued that “they show no interest in me”. Twenty-four hours later, he was diagnosed with lung cancer.
Prior to my diabetes diagnosis, I had a sinus infection that went on for six months and it worried me. I had never been this sick for so long and I wanted to get answers. I consider myself incredibly lucky to have had a GP who was patient with me and listened. Neither one of us expected a diabetes diagnosis after further tests were run.
These experiences highlight the unpredictability of our health. Neither my friend nor myself fitted the stereotypical profile for our diagnosed conditions. We tend to go into the doctors expected to be told “it’s nothing” or “it’ll go away”. But sometimes that’s not enough. As patients, we need to do better at sticking to our guns when we feel that something is not right. And as healthcare professionals, we need to do better at making our patients feel heard.
We are our own experts when it comes to our body. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t brush it off. That’s not to say we should become hypochondriacs. But if something is concerning you or impacting your day to day life, get it checked out. If someone actually says “hey, you should get that checked out”, listen to them!
It’s better to run the tests and receive the all clear than to let the issue bubble along until it’s too late. And if you don’t feel listened to in the first instance, get a second opinion. Early detection or diagnosis often leads to more treatment or management options. Make sure that your doctor captures your concerns during your visit as you never know when that piece of the puzzle might fall in to place.
My endo dictates his clinical notes aloud while I’m in the room to ensure it’s accurate and that I know what is being sent to other members in my diabetes care team. It can be a bit awkward to hear but I respect and appreciate the honesty and transparency this process brings.
Now I have the habit of seeing what health professionals write in their clinical notes and I never hesitate to correct them if needed. Medical notes are legal documents, which is why it is crucial that what is documented is accurate. However, this does comes with confidence. Prior to my diabetes diagnosis, I would’ve never dared to do this nor would I know what to look out for. It has taken me years and plenty of bad experiences to get to this point.
Being an active participant in my own healthcare has become another one of those life skills you pick up living with chronic condition over time. Unfortunately, time is a luxury not everyone has. Because now we will never know, had my friend gotten that x-ray earlier, would he still be alive now, about to celebrate his 30th birthday?
2 thoughts on “Speak Up, Be Heard”
You know, I have always been proactive in my health. I think when you have diabetes you are. The trouble is that once you take it on it is a little obsessive. Sometimes I want to be the patient just fix it damn it.
I get to to that with my cardiologist, but that is all. She is like a mongoose. She attacks first and asks questions later. Not usually the kind of persons I like being around. But she can be an angry no nonsense mince no words type of person. If you do not like it then you need to find a new cardiologist. I tell you she is refreshing in a sea of patient centered lets talk doctors.
By the way I see my cardiologist once per year these days. After she told me you need to lose weight or die, I did and she said great I like you , now don’t do it again. I have not. I try to avoid her as much as possible.
Your cardiologist sounds scary! I would like to avoid her too if I can haha. And sometimes you need that kind of tough love. Different strategies work for different people, that’s what I love (and find frustrating) about healthcare; it’s not one size fits all and it’s a lot of trial and error.
I agree that with diabetes you need to be in the drivers seat. Otherwise you will just keep going around in circles.